What Holds You Together?

One of the foundational ideas that differentiates a secular marriage from a God-centered marriage is that a God-centered marriage assumes a union of three: God, husband, and wife. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” A cord or braid appears to contain only two strands, but … Read More

Where Did All The Fun Go?

After a couple has been married for a number of years, it is not uncommon that they are drawn apart do to different areas of interest. She gets involved in mommy activities. He golfs with his buddies on the weekend. The time they used to so easily spend doing activities TOGETHER when they were dating has all but disappeared. If … Read More

What would you have done?

We recently went on a river cruise with two other couples up the Danube in Eastern Europe. We traveled through majestic cities, quaint little villages and beautiful scenic countryside. As we enjoyed all the incredible sites, we also saw sites that told the story of the harsh WWII history that ravaged much of this area. On our last day we … Read More

His Needs and Her Needs are Different

In his book, His Needs, Her Needs, author, Willard F. Harley Jr. identified 10 different emotional needs that are important in marriage. Typically husbands and wives prioritize these needs differently. It is valuable to understand and be understood by our spouse. Ask your spouse to identify and rank which of these 10 emotional needs would be in their top 5 Admiration Affection Sex … Read More

The 10 Commandments for Peaceful Discussion

When a couple is having trouble with communication, it is often a symptom of a bigger issue. Try to identify the bigger issue and work that through. Above all, always speak to each other in love. Here are 10 Commandments for Peaceful Discussions. 🙂

Locked Together as One

While traveling in Budapest, Hungary, we came across this Chain Tree where lovers put a lock that represents their permanent commitment to love one another. This is a beautiful portrayal of the oneness God designed for married couples to perpetuate. From the very beginning God wanted a husband and wife to operate together as a singular unit. Genesis 2:24 states, … Read More

Doing life together with other couples

Fellowship with other believers is one of the conduits God uses to share His truth with us. Communing with other Christian married couples will help enrich your marriage through shared life experiences and godly insights. If you are not already in one, consider joining a small group.

Question of the day…

Marriage is the laboratory for learning how to love. What is the greatest lesson about love you have learned from your marriage?

Into-me-see

You should feel comfortable and safe sharing your most intimate thoughts and dreams with each other. It is as if you are saying, “into-me-see.” Growing in this area involves a continual effort and investment in your relationship. For some fun questions to initiate conversation check out our “Couple Conversation Starters.”

Respond in LOVE

Are there any areas in which you feel your spouse is not successfully fulfilling his or her role in marriage? God gives specific instructions for husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church. God instructs wives to respect their husbands and submit to their leadership in the family. When your spouse does not successfully live out their defined … Read More

What Keeps You Awake at Night?

Do you sometimes lie awake at night because you are worrying about things. The Bible tells us, “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all … Read More

Timing is everything!

Content, tone, and body language are all important aspects of communication, but listening and choosing the appropriate time for sensitive conversations are perhaps two of the most important elements for good communication in marriage so you can avoid unnecessary conflicts. When you have important things to discuss, choose a time when neither one of you is hungry, angry, or tired, … Read More

Is your marriage in the “sweet spot?”

Are you spending most of your time in the sweet spot? A marriage has momentum in the direction of the sweet spot or the sour patch. If you have drifted out of your sweet spot, try to find something silly or fun to do together. Rent one of your favorite comedies to watch together; have a water gun fight, play … Read More

Marriage Myths Debunked

When it comes to cultural messages about marriage, we are being scammed as well. We are being sold ideas that contain “fine print,” setting up couples for failure long before they walk down the aisle. Here are some of the popular marriage messages (scams) that have saturated our culture: Marriage is easy when you find “the one.” Conflict is a … Read More

In God We Trust

We are each married to a sinner and our spouse is also married to a sinner. When your spouse falls short of living out God’s will in your marriage, take your frustrations to God. Trust God to meet your needs, and he will fill you with his love to take back into the marriage. In doing this, instead of expecting … Read More

Mother’s Day Idea

With Mother’s Day just around the corner, if your mother-in-law is still alive, write a note to her thanking her for the son or daughter she raised. Give a copy to your spouse.

A smile is worth 1000 words!

Without saying anything, sometime during the day, look at your spouse and smile. “A smile is a curve that can set lots of things straight.”