The Secret to a More Vibrant Marriage

Keeping the home fires warm is one of the best ways to protect your marriage. A marriage is most vulnerable to a spouse seeking validation outside of the marriage when things get cold at home. A husband and wife are meant to meet each other’s emotional and physical intimacy needs, but God created them with uniquely different needs and responses.  In … Read More

Loving Your Spouse Like Jesus Loves You

God sees us fail repeatedly, yet He is never impatient or unkind. God sees our wrongdoings, but He doesn’t record them. His love is long-suffering and His forgiveness is never ending. God never gives up on us, and He wants us to love our partner in the same way.  “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude … Read More

What is LOVE?

Love is a difficult word to define, perhaps because there are so many types of love but just one English word to describe them. We say we love our spouse, we love our children, we love our car, and we love ice cream. We use the same word “love” in all of these examples, though with very different meanings. To … Read More

Communication Killers

One of the first steps towards improving your communication skills as a couple is to identify where your communication is not as healthy as it could be. Discuss with your spouse the following list of communication killers to determine where either one of you could improve your communication skills in your relationship. Do either one of both of you: Communicate with … Read More

Choose Your Attitude

Do you pay attention to your own self-talk? It is the voice we listen to the most and if we are not careful, it can undermine us. We can sometimes miss life’s greatest gifts by focusing on the wrong things. One big way we can find ourselves doing this is by speaking of things as obligations instead of privileges. “I … Read More

Actively Listening to Your Spouse

Communication expert, Michael P. Nichols, says, “Genuine listening means suspending memory, desire, and judgment—and, for a moment at least, existing for the other person.” Be alert to some of the common blocks to listening in your relationship: judging, daydreaming, advising, reading your spouse’s mind, filtering (selective listening), planning your response, and changing the subject (through blaming, being defensive, or being … Read More

Holding Your Spouse Lovingly Accountable

As a married couple, there will be times, when you will need to communicate a hard truth to your spouse. Accountability is crucially important in our battle against sin. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Who better to hold us lovingly accountable than our spouse? This type of critique should never be given in … Read More

Husbands and Wives are Wired Differently

During a premarital session, Brandt expressed his annoyance that his fiancée, Alexis, would often complain about her job to him. He would listen to her vent and then give her suggestions on how to resolve the issues. Instead of appreciating his help, she would shut down in frustration. He said in exasperation, “I don’t get it. I get punished for … Read More

What is Your Spouse Really Saying?

Body Language is the form of communication that is most involuntary; therefore, it is usually the most honest. Non-verbal messages are communicated through gestures, postures, facial expressions, and other behaviors. You might not be a body language expert, but quite often you can intuitively sense what others are saying through their non-verbal messages. Here are some body language tips you … Read More

Be Intentional About the Tone in Your Home

Establish a positive tone in your home that is welcoming. When you and your spouse come together at the end of your day, greet each other in a special way. Let your spouse know that he or she is loved by you!

The Differences Between Husbands and Wives

Men and women often feel misunderstood by their partners. It is natural for us to think that men and women function alike; however, that statement could not be further from the truth. The differences between men and women are extensive and wide-ranging. Despite the notable gender differences, God created males and females equal and in His image. Together men and … Read More

The Greatest Fear

One of the greatest fears most people have is the fear of death. I believe there are four key reasons for this. We fear we may not be able to complete everything we set out to do before our time is up here on earth. We all must face death eventually. It is inescapable. We fear the inability to stop … Read More

He Drove His SUV Through The Garage Door!

Yesterday in the news there was a story about a 91 year old man who drove his SUV through his garage door. It was a longtime dream he had and was the final thing on his “bucket list” (Click here to read the whole story with video). What’s on your “bucket list?” Have you ever had a conversation with your spouse about … Read More

Men and Women are Uniquely Different

We were talking in the office today about the differences between men and women. The differences can be so EXTREME. One of my co-workers stated, “We all need a manual.” I thought he said, “We all need Emmanuel (which means God with us).” The truth is we do all need God with us in marriage. A marriage without God is … Read More

7 Areas of Compatibility in Marriage

As we have counseled married couples, we have come to realize that there are seven areas that couples need to have a good degree of compatibility. They are fun, friendship, finances, family, forgiveness, future and faith. This does not mean you need to be perfectly compatible. There is no such thing as any two people syncing perfectly. If they did, one would … Read More