Celebrate each other’s successes.
Life moves so quickly. Often husbands and wives are involved in separate jobs and activities that take them in completely different directions. We may not understand why our spouse is so excited about something that seems small to us. But when something is meaningful to our spouse, whether it is a job promotion, or simply that our spouse had a good day, we should embrace their happiness and celebrate with them. Good news for one spouse should be good news for both.
Sometimes it comes natural, other times it takes an intentional effort. When your spouse shares, be engaged in the conversation, ask questions, be their cheerleader. Our son recently received a nice award when he was out of town on a business trip. His wife greeted him at the airport with balloons and a handmade poster. Later they celebrated with a special dinner. Have fun together and let your spouse know you are their #1 fan!
Dream new dreams and make new memories together.
It is important for couples to continue dreaming and creating fun memories together. One of the cornerstones for encouraging this is to create a safe, welcoming environment for your spouse to share his or her innermost thoughts and feelings without any fear of receiving criticism or judgement. You should have such deep emotional intimacy that you know each other better than any other person. You might describe it as “into-me-see.” After hearing your spouse share his or her dreams, put a plan in motion to pursue achieving the ones that are attainable. Keep looking forward and creating new adventures together. Enjoy the journey!
Focus on the Big Picture – Eternity!
It is special dreaming big dreams together and celebrating life’s successes, but the sum of everything good in this life pales in comparison to what awaits us in the life to come. Have you ever paused to imagine what it will be like to stand before God Almighty, the Creator of heaven and earth? The words I hope to hear Him say are:
“Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!” ~ Matthew 25:23.
One of the things God has given every married person to be faithful with in this lifetime is his or her marriage. When you and your spouse have an argument, ask yourself, “In the scope of eternity, does this really matter? Out of love for Jesus, can I just let it go?” God wants us to live as couples who share an intense love for Jesus, a commitment to make Him Lord of our marriages, and to have a common purpose of serving Him with our lives. When a married couple focuses on the big picture of eternity, God blesses them now, but they understand…the best is yet to come!