Actively Listening to Your Spouse

Communication expert, Michael P. Nichols, says, “Genuine listening means suspending memory, desire, and judgment—and, for a moment at least, existing for the other person.” Be alert to some of the common blocks to listening in your relationship: judging, daydreaming, advising, reading your spouse’s mind, filtering (selective listening), planning your response, and changing the subject (through blaming, being defensive, or being passive aggressive). Commit to being more intentional about listening to your spouse…really listening.