Am I My Husband’s Helper?

When God created Adam, he saw that Adam needed a companion. But God did not make an exact replica of Adam; He made a woman, who according to Genesis 2:18, was to be Adam’s helper or helpmate. The New Testament tells us we have all been given a specific walk for our lives.

For we are His workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” – Ephesians 2:10 

God wants women, who are blessed with the gift of marriage, to view their marriages as a ministry and to live out His good works within their marriage. God wants a wife to be her husband’s helpmate in every area of his life—socially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Pause for a moment and ask yourself these two questions:

  1. In what ways am I a good “helpmate” to my husband?
  2. In what ways could I improve as a “helpmate” to my husband?

God intended for the relationship between a husband and wife to be equal and interdependent. 1 Corinthians 11:11-12 states:

In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man [but interdependent], nor is man independent of woman [but interdependent]. For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.

Men and women are viewed as equals in the eyes of God, as stated in Galatians 3:28:

There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one [or equal] in Christ Jesus.

God made man and woman uniquely different, with distinct roles. These differences are meant to compliment the relationship and bond a couple together in a special oneness that is only found in the marriage relationship.

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

The Hebrew word for united, dabaq, means “to cling, cleave, keep close, stick to, or adhere to” (like glue). God describes the union of marriage as being “united (or glued together) into one flesh.” That sounds pretty permanent!

God has given different, yet equal, roles to the husband and wife. A husband and wife should appreciate and respect the unique characteristics of the other, while uniting together as one—with God as the leader—in a permanent (glued together), lasting, and fulfilling relationship.