5 Ways to Love “Difficult People” at Christmas

The holidays often bring us together with family and friends in social settings that can be unpredictable and emotionally charged. Approaching these times of coming together can be filled with exciting anticipation, or anxious trepidation depending on the particular relationships. Think of the three most difficult people for you to love that you will see this holiday season. What would … Read More

Setting the Tone in Your Home

This time of year we focus so much time on creating a holiday atmosphere in our homes. We may decorate with Christmas lights and put up a tree. We set out the nativity scene to remember what the true meaning of the season is all about. God wants us to set a positive atmosphere in our home not only at … Read More

Something to Sing About!

Most people spend their lives searching for happiness. The dictionary defines happiness as “a pleasure or satisfaction based on happenings.” But I submit to you there is something even better—joy. Joy is defined as “a feeling or condition of high pleasure or delight.” Happiness is a temporary feeling based on events that happen, whereas joy is a feeling or condition. … Read More

How to Experience More Joy with Your Spouse This CHRISTmas Season

Our pastor recently shared in his Sunday message that “Joy is the byproduct of believing the Gospel, living the Gospel, sharing the Gospel and helping others to experience the Gospel.” Do you and your spouse want to experience more holiday joy this season? Work together to find extra ways to live out the Gospel. While others are anxious or frustrated … Read More

8 Ways to Recapture the Peace When Conflicts Arise During the Holidays

The holidays are so full of expectations for the picture perfect Norman Rockwell moments. Each of us has an idea of what we want the Christmas season to be like. What happens when our dreams of Christmas are not met? Often the ideas we have for Christmas don’t match our spouses. Because of this our desires are either unmet or … Read More

How Thankful Are You?

Thanksgiving – Let’s take a moment to reflect on the word that designates this national holiday – thanksgiving. I think the word thanksgiving rates right up there with the word Rejoice! Thanksgiving, being grateful, being appreciative, this should be a way of life for us, naturally flowing from our hearts and mouths. When we are thankful, our focus moves off … Read More

Love is Easy Until Our Spouse Gets Difficult…Then What?

It seems the idea of loving our spouses is easy until something difficult happens in our relationship. Our spouse is cranky or thoughtless. He or she says something hurtful or insensitive. Critical relatives come into town and steal your peace while your spouse is enjoying every moment with them. There is a whole array of things that can happen that … Read More

16 Ways to “One Another” Your Spouse

I recently decided to do a little Bible study on all of the “One Another” statements in the New Testament. As I studied them, I thought how wonderful every marriage would be if we lived these out daily with our spouse. Think of one way you can be intentional about showering your spouse with each of the following statements in … Read More

What to do When You Have Stinkin’ Thinkin’ Towards Your Spouse

It is so easy to get caught up in stinkin’ thinkin’. Our spouse says or does something that is displeasing to us and we find that is all we can think about throughout the day. In fact, it has us dwelling on every time he or she has done something like that before. We find ourself more and more angry, … Read More

What’s Love Got To Do With It?

I have heard it said that the happiest people are married and that the most unhappy people are married. The difference between being the happiest and being the unhappiest depends on how you express LOVE  in your marriage. Marriage isn’t about two people being perfectly compatible. It is about two imperfect people coming together and discovering how to successfully and lovingly work … Read More

When You Are Upset With Your Spouse…

When you are upset with your spouse, how do you respond? The old me would show my husband I was mad at him in a passive aggressive way. I wouldn’t yell and shout, instead I would give him the cold shoulder treatment…sometimes for days! What happened that changed my thinking? I began to truly understand the principle Jesus taught in … Read More

Girlfriends Can Help Make Us Better Wives

It is important for husbands and wives to reserve time together each day to communicate. Recognize though, that men and women have different conversational needs. Since sharing needs may differ, both should be sensitive to the other. A husband may need some down time when he first arrives home from work. He may give brief answers with little detail. A wife … Read More

Comfort one Another in Love

When was the last time you asked your spouse to share with you how you can be praying for him or her? Ask your spouse to share openly and honestly with you about their dreams, their goals, their frustrations and anything that is burdening them, so that you can come alongside them with the same heart in prayer. It will … Read More

Do You Sometimes Feel Like a Pathetic Loser?…Whatever!

I recently met with a woman who felt she was a failure as a wife and mother. Her husband had left her for a younger woman and was in the process of divorcing her. Her son, who had just started college, was making some poor choices and she feared the consequences. To top it all off, she was going to … Read More

The 21 Day Challenge That Can Transform Your Marriage

It has been said that it takes 21 days to create a habit. I am not sure if this is a fact or a myth, but I want to challenge you to try something for 21 days that is sure to bless your marriage. My husband, Ed, likes to ask couples, “Would you like to know the magic formula for … Read More

3 Ways to Infuse Joy Into Your Marriage

Celebrate each other’s successes. Life moves so quickly. Often husbands and wives are involved in separate jobs and activities that take them in completely different directions. We may not understand why our spouse is so excited about something that seems small to us. But when something is meaningful to our spouse, whether it is a job promotion, or simply that … Read More

The Secret to Getting Your Spouse to Treat You Like a King or Queen

About nine years ago, my husband, Ed, came up with an idea that demonstrates how to intentionally serve one another in love. He suggested that we start a weekly tradition of being king or queen for the day. This little exercise helps us understand and better communicate how we can each meet the other’s needs and desires in our marriage. … Read More

3 Steps to Reinvigorate Friendship with Your Spouse

When we meet with engaged couples to do their premarital counseling, we can easily see the genuine friendship they have together. They are each other’s best friends. They know how to have fun together and are genuinely interested in what is important to their partner. They invest time and energy into their relationship. Fast forward 15 years and it is … Read More

You Never Have to Worry Again!

Do you have sleepless nights over worrisome situations in your life? God’s Word tells us not to be anxious or to worry about ANYTHING. Easier said, then done! It seems so natural to obediently talk about trusting in the Lord and waiting patiently on Him, until something occurs that disrupts our lives right where we live. How can we find … Read More

I Feel Most Loved When…

I am married to an amazing guy. He brings me coffee in bed every morning. He washes and gases my car once a week. He even does his own laundry. I have never so much as picked up a sock after him. You are probably thinking I am one lucky wife, and yes I am! Would it surprise you if … Read More