The Best Way to Enrich Your Marriage

If I could encourage married couples to do one thing for the health and enrichment of their marriage, it would be to immerse themselves in God’s Word…not only as hearers but doers. A couple who keeps the attitude of Christ towards one another will be blessed beyond measure. Too many people are casual about their Bible reading, or perhaps it … Read More

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Let your spouse know by your actions that you value them over other people and things. It is so easy to get caught up in work, taking care of the kids, extended family, church, etc. These are justifiably valuable places to invest your time. But make sure that your spouse is not just getting your leftovers. Be intentional about making … Read More

Top 10 Emotional Needs in Marriage

The bond of love between a husband and wife is special because of the “one flesh” intimacy that God has given us. In a joyful marriage, love is expressed and experienced in a romantic way, a friendship way and an unconditional, sacrificial way. The goal for marriage should be to keep all these expressions of love strong and in good … Read More

How to Resolve Conflict in Your Marriage

Conflict doesn’t destroy marriages. It is the inability to resolve a conflict that is so destructive. It is often the harsh words or tone that are used during a conflict that is most lasting and causes hurt feelings to linger long after the conflict is resolved. We have found that if couples will set a few ground rules for their … Read More

Take it to the Lord in Prayer

Sometimes things don’t go the way we would like, or the way we feel we deserve in our marriage. “He never helps around the house.” “She doesn’t appreciate how hard you work.” “He is more invested in his job than his family.” “She is never satisfied.” “He just wants to watch sports all day.” “She cares more about the kids … Read More

LOVE? What is it?

When Jesus was asked for God’s greatest commandment he said, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” ~Mark 12:30-31 God obviously places a very high value on love. … Read More

Living Our Marriage in the Spirit

According to Romans 8 there is a difference between “living according to the sinful nature” and “living according to the Spirit”   Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind of sinful … Read More

The BIG Relationship Killer

Excessive criticism is one of the most common destroyers of marriages. Most of us are aware of how often we are criticized, but we are seldom aware of how often we criticize. Here are 3 ways to help curb being critical of your spouse: Before you criticize, ask yourself three questions: Is it true, is it kind, and is it … Read More

It’s All a Matter of Perspective

I recently encountered two women who were sharing their stories about how obsessive each of their husbands was about the way the home was kept. Both of the men were extremely neat and organized. If things were out of place (which when you live in your home will tend to happen ????), it really bothered each of their husbands. One … Read More

Blessed and Forgiven

Our free will often draws us to live a “self-centered,” “self-focused” life instead of being in right relationship with God as Lord of our lives and being there for our spouse. The essence of sin is self-centeredness, or independence from God—the belief that we don’t need Him. The essence of God’s plan for us is communion with Him. He loves us … Read More

Have You Cashed the Check?

We have choices throughout each day to love and follow God or to choose our own selfish ways. God in His love is constantly leading and correcting His people in an attempt to draw them into relationship with Him. No matter how hard we try on our own, we will continually fall short of what God requires of us. As … Read More

3 Ways to Grow Closer to God

Come near to God and he will come near to you ~ James 4:8 It seems the most natural way to pray is to bring our prayer requests to God. We sometimes act like He is the big vending machine in the sky. But God wants us to have so much more in our relationship with Him.   BE THANKFUL ~ Spend time each day with God … Read More

Loving Like Jesus

God met with Moses Mount Sinai to give him the 10 Commandments for us to follow. When was the last time you read the 10 Commandments for yourself? Can you recite all 10? It is interesting to note that the first three commandments pertain to loving God. The last seven commandments pertain to loving others. Jesus summed up all of the … Read More

Why There Is Such A Struggle For Control In Marriage

When Adam and Eve sinned by eating the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden, their immediate punishment was spiritual death and the beginning of physical death. God also confronted them with further consequences that have been passed down through the lineage of mankind and are therefore part of our heritage, too. To the woman he said, “I will greatly … Read More

The Blame Game

Satan is the king of deception, the father of lies. He has a way of taking a lie and twisting it so that it appears to be the truth and that the truth is actually a lie. Even those with the sincerest love for God can be led astray. As Christians, like Adam and Eve, we need to stay keenly … Read More

How Would You Have Responded?

The consequences for sin can be traced all the way back to the original two humans, Adam and Eve.  God told Adam, “…for when you eat of it you will surely die” (Genesis 2:15). Disobeying God in the Garden caused Adam and Eve die spiritually and physically. When Adam and Eve ate of the apple, they immediately died spiritually and … Read More

Oh No! We’ve Become THAT Couple!”

 I remember when we were dating, we could spend hours endlessly talking with each other over coffee. More than once, we would look over at another table and see a couple who were both staring off into space. They had run out of things to talk about. I remember saying to one another, “That will never happen to us! We … Read More

How Would You Define Good and Evil?

Jesus was once asked, “What is the greatest commandment?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.” ~ Matthew 22:37-38—37   In its simplest sense, “goodness” is represented when we Love the Lord our God with all of our heart, … Read More

What Were They Thinking?

The Bible tells us that Adam and Eve originally dwelt in the Garden of Eden. The word “Eden” means “delight.” So they dwelt in the “Garden of Delight.” According to the Bible’s description of the garden, it truly was delightful. And the LORD God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye … Read More

Are You Stuck Together Like Glue?

God wants a husband and wife to join together as one, as we read in Genesis 2:24, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The Hebrew word for united, dabaq, means “to cling, cleave, keep close, stick to, or adhere to” (like glue). God … Read More