Do you pay attention to your own self-talk? It is the voice we listen to the most and if we are not careful, it can undermine us. We can sometimes miss life’s greatest gifts by focusing on the wrong things. One big way we can find ourselves doing this is by speaking of things as obligations instead of privileges. “I have to make dinner,” “Look at how the laundry has piled up,” or “I have had a long day at work. Why should I have to help the kids with their homework?” What if these obligations were viewed like this instead: “I am thankful I have a husband who comes home every night for dinner,” “We are blessed to be able to have such a nice variety of clothes to care for and wear,” or “Having a home filled with family to come home to after a long day is a joy.”
Our self-talk can affect everything from our mood to the results we achieve in our relationships, and our work. When we choose to reframe challenges and irritations and instead look for the blessings and lessons in all things, we are able to experience joy in all circumstances. We can even use our great attitude to shower kindness on others and improve their mood as well.
I recently arrived back to my office after a long appointment that had not gone as well as I had hoped. There on my computer I found a little sticky note from one of my co-workers. It read, “I love your smile! 🙂 Have a great weekend!” Now, that is someone who knows how to brighten someone else’s day by sharing her own positive attitude. It not only put a smile on my face at the end of a long-week, but it had me bring a cheerier attitude home to my husband that night.
No matter what difficulties we might face, we always have the ability to choose our attitude. Choose wisely! Be intentional about choosing what you will focus on with your self-talk and give your spouse your best attitude in all circumstances!
“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had.” Romans 15:5