“Pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:17-18
I don’t know about you, but my husband, Ed, doesn’t always see things the same way I do. Sometimes when we discuss important issues (and sometimes not-so-important topics), we just don’t see eye-to-eye. When a decision needs to be made or a direction taken, I know the Bible tells me, “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). So out of obedience to God, I lovingly submit.
Just as wives don’t always submit and respect their husbands, husbands don’t always make decisions that conform to God’s will. Does this give a wife permission to disregard her husband’s authority or to nag her husband?
1 Peter 3:1 says, “[W]ives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the Word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives.” This is a difficult passage to digest. It is not suggesting that a wife be complicit in sin. A wife’s highest obedience is to God, and then to her husband. If a wife sees her husband making a sinful decision, she should lovingly point out the error of her husband’s decision, using the Bible as the authority. She should speak in love, as Ephesians 4:29 says: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Then she should turn the situation over to God in prayer.
Prayer is the most powerful tool we can use in our marriage. From the beginning, God intended for couples to be united together as one. This means He wants couples to be unified in their decisions and actions. When you are at odds with a decision, begin praying for God to either change your heart, or to change your husband’s mind. You will be amazed at how God responds to your prayer.
You know, in the end, I have never ever really won through nagging Ed. And when I have prayed with the right heart, I have never been disappointed in the result.
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Ed and Angie Wright
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