Jesus was once asked, “What is the greatest commandment?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.” ~ Matthew 22:37-38—37
In its simplest sense, “goodness” is represented when we Love the Lord our God with all of our heart, soul and mind. Evil is whenever we do not do this. When we use our free will to obey and glorify God with our thoughts, words and actions in our marriage; that is good. When we use our free will to pursue our own selfish desires that are not God-honoring, that is evil.
Christians often take a “self-righteous” view of good and evil. In their narrow-mindedness, they may point out a certain behavior or conduct as being evil. We can also become prideful or judgmental, thinking our sin isn’t as bad as someone else’s. We want to righteously point to “this behavior” or “that behavior” as being evil. Instead, it would be better to take a good look at ourselves and humbly recognize that every thought, word, or deed that is not done in the spirit of love, is evil. Matthew 3:7 reminds us of this when Jesus said, “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”
Spend some time in prayer asking God to reveal to you where you are not loving Him with all of your heart, soul, and mind in the context of your marriage. What area of your marriage does God want you to work on to be more God-honoring?