Setting the Tone in Your Home

This time of year we focus so much time on creating a holiday atmosphere in our homes. We may decorate with Christmas lights and put up a tree. We set out the nativity scene to remember what the true meaning of the season is all about. God wants us to set a positive atmosphere in our home not only at Christmas, but throughout the entire year; however, the tone He wants in our home has nothing to do with decorations.

The feeling God wants us to create in our home is one of optimism, harmony, efficiency, safety, and joy. He wants us to encourage a household that shows love towards God and one another. The tone in your household is set from the moment you first wake up.

I am not by nature a morning person. I don’t feel very energetic or awake until after I take my shower. My husband is an enthusiastic morning person. He wakes up early and is immediately alert and happy. He sings as he brings me a cup of coffee each morning. I am not proud to say that early in our marriage, I did not respond in a very positive way. I would often groan in response to his sunny attitude and put a pillow over my head. In his good-hearted way he would tease, “Sometimes I wake up grumpy…other times I let her sleep.”

God finally got ahold of my heart in this matter. He opened my eyes to see that the way I interacted with my husband (before my shower) set the tone for the day. God made me realize how I often stole my husband’s joy when I responded to him negatively. I made a conscious choice to wake up cheery every morning. Now I always greet my husband in a warm and loving way. This small little action has made a big difference to our mornings.

Because the morning has such a powerful effect on setting the tone for the day, I want to challenge you to spend some time with God first thing in the morning. Pray as you awake to start your day. Pray while in the shower. I like to think of the shower spray as God’s Spirit raining down on me. Be aware of the tone you set in the morning and make a conscious effort to wake up joyful. You will be amazed the peaceful presence it will add to your day. Perhaps this poem, by Grace L. Naessens, says it all:


I got up early one morning
And rushed right into the day!
I had so much to accomplish
That I didn’t have time to pray.

Problems just tumbled about me,
And heavier came each task.
“Why doesn’t God help me?” I wondered.
He answered, “You didn’t ask!”

I tried to come into God’s presence;
I used all my keys at the lock.
God gently and lovingly chided,
“Why, child, you didn’t knock!”

I wanted to see joy and beauty,
But the day toiled on, gray and bleak.
I wondered why God didn’t show me.
He said, “But you didn’t seek.”

I woke up early this morning,
And paused before entering the day.
I had so much to accomplish
That I had to take time to pray!