The 21 Day Challenge That Can Transform Your Marriage

It has been said that it takes 21 days to create a habit. I am not sure if this is a fact or a myth, but I want to challenge you to try something for 21 days that is sure to bless your marriage.

My husband, Ed, likes to ask couples, “Would you like to know the magic formula for having the best marriage ever?…Wake up every day with the mindset to make this the best day ever for your spouse.” He has truly taken this to heart and it has made a big impact on our marriage.

I want to present you with this challenge…For the next 21 days, make every day the most wonderful day possible for your spouse. Find ways to be extra loving in your actions and words.  

There are three things to watch for as you take this challenge:

You will not be able to execute this perfectly ~ You don’t have to be perfect. Although Ed has been intentional about being extra thoughtful, kind and loving towards me every day, heaven knows, he has not always been perfect (hehe). When you slip up, just restart. Give yourself permission to make mistakes, and develop strategies for getting back on track quickly.

When you treat your spouse kindly, you bring out the best in them ~ I am not a morning person by nature. I need to ease into my morning. Ed began waking me up in the morning with singing me a sweet little love song and a cup of coffee. I could not help but respond with a smile and a positive attitude.

Your spouse won’t always deserve your best effort ~ This is your challenge, not your spouse’s. The only person you can control is yourself. I must admit that at times, I slip into old negative patterns and come off a little grumpy to Ed in the morning even right after he has been so kind to me and brought me my morning coffee. This does not deter him from continuing to make my day special. God commands us to love deeply from our heart whether or not the other person is being lovable. When your spouse is being difficult, remember:

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. ~Ephesians 4:2

Today we both try to regularly live our marriage with the intent make each day the best day possible for the other. Our biggest frustration most days is not being able to out love each other. This is a great problem to have!