The Blame Game

Satan is the king of deception, the father of lies. He has a way of taking a lie and twisting it so that it appears to be the truth and that the truth is actually a lie. Even those with the sincerest love for God can be led astray. As Christians, like Adam and Eve, we need to stay keenly aware of Satan’s deceptive ways. Our best defense against this deceptiveness is to stay grounded in the truth of God’s Word.
As a married couple, we need to be aware that our sinful choices have consequences that impact our spouse. After committing a sin, it is not uncommon to rationalize our actions and make them seem justified to our spouse. We also are quick to judge or condemn our spouse, while giving ourselves grace. Take a closer look at how Adam and Eve responded to God’s questioning of their actions. 
The man said, “The woman You put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”  Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate” ~ Genesis 12-13—12 [emphasis added].
Did you notice that as God questioned Adam and Eve, they tried to place the blame for their actions on someone else? In his statement, Adam tries to blame Eve, but he even tries to place some blame also on God: “the woman You put here with me.” The woman then blamed the serpent.
We can all think of a time when we tried to shift the blame from ourselves to someone else. The truth is that we can blame others, and we can even try to blame God, but we are ultimately responsible for our own choices and the subsequent consequences.
God knew that Adam and Eve were going to sin even before He created them. He knows that you and I are going to sin. Thankfully we are forgiven for our sins if we have accepted Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. This is a huge gift and blessing. God still wants us to acknowledge our sinfulness and to repent. Do you find it difficult to take responsibility for all of your actions, and especially your mistakes? Do you even sometimes try to blame God for your circumstances?
CALL TO ACTION: Spend some quiet time with God asking Him to reveal to you any areas you have disobeyed His will. Humbly share what God has revealed to you with your spouse. Ask your spouse if there are any more areas that they see that you have fallen short of loving God, loving others, or loving your spouse. Prayerfully repent and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in straighter paths. (Hopefully in doing this exercise with your spouse, the Holy Spirit will impact them to do the same).