The Differences Between Husbands and Wives

Men and women often feel misunderstood by their partners. It is natural for us to think that men and women function alike; however, that statement could not be further from the truth. The differences between men and women are extensive and wide-ranging. Despite the notable gender differences, God created males and females equal and in His image. Together men and women portray many of God’s attributes. In simple yet profound ways, God designed our differences to complement each other, which ultimately enhances the oneness of the marriage relationship.

Dr. John Gray, author of the best-seller, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, writes about the subtle differences between the brains of men and women:

Men’s brains tend to perform tasks predominantly with the left-side, which is the logical/rational side of the brain. Women, on the other hand, use both sides of their brains because a woman’s brain has a larger corpus callosum, which means women can transfer data between the right and left hemispheres faster than men. … The other structural difference in men and women’s brains is the limbic size, which controls bonding and nesting instincts. Females, on average, have larger, deep limbic systems than males. This is why Venusians [women] tend to be more in touch with their feelings and are better able to express them than men. The larger deep limbic system also increases a Venusian’s [woman’s] ability to connect and bond with others.

The downside of this is that women are more susceptible to depression, not only because of the larger limbic system, but also because they produce less serotonin than men.[1]

Thus, scientific evidence shows differences in the brain structures of men and women and therefore differences in their reactions. This is why women typically are more relational, are more in touch with their own feelings and the feelings of others, and are more nurturing than men. This means women are more likely to consider emotional ramifications when making decisions, while men typically consider logic.

[1] John Gray, “The Male vs. the Female Brain,” posted April 27, 2011,, (accessed June 23, 2012).