One of the foundational ideas that differentiates a secular marriage from a God-centered marriage is that a God-centered marriage assumes a union of three: God, husband, and wife. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” A cord or braid appears to contain only two strands, but it is impossible to create a braid with only two strands. If just two strands are wrapped together, they quickly unravel. Herein lies the mystery: What looks like two strands requires a third. The third strand, though not immediately visible keeps the strands tightly woven.
In a Christian marriage, God’s presence, like that third strand in a braid, holds the husband and wife together. As a couple, one of the most important steps towards creating a strong marriage is placing God as the leader. Have you as a couple submitted to God being Lord of your lives and Lord of your marriage. Acknowledge the need to have God in control of all of your decisions, directing and leading every aspect of your lives. Have a discussion on what changes you can make to better submit to God’s leading in your marriage.